Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How to keep a guy interested long distance?

A guy I went to middle school with has just recently found me on Facebook. We hit everything off really well, and totally understand each other (which isn't common for me). I soon find that he's moved to another state, but he's moving back soon. We talk on Skype every day, and it's becoming the highlight of my days - But it seems like he's losing interest. How do I keep him interested so that when he moves back, he'll still want to be with me? :/ Help.How to keep a guy interested long distance?
He's losing interest because he's having a real relationship. Sex with a girl. Not a fake one on the internet.


You should do the same. Find a real guy. Not a facebook one.How to keep a guy interested long distance?
I am leaving you an answer because


i dont want to you to feel like you have to do anything drastic :)





First off, ask him if he is okay (after your whole greeting of course :p)..maybe something is bothering him or on his mind that he wants to talk to you about or someone about..im assuming since the both of you have this ';lovely connection'; then he should be willing at somepoint to spill and confide in you :)


if thats the case, talk to him about it...let him know that you are here (whether he tells you or not) and are willing to listen if he needs an ear. And when u say this..MEAN IT!..you would want him to do the same if you needed him ...just clarifying that..


its a good foundation for your relationship (COMMUNICATION is key!!)..


I doubt that he is trying to pull away or losing enough interest to end it...its very rare to find people who you can connect with...and even if it doesnt last forever..i think it should last pretty long..so dont sweat it too much..;)


But...i do have to say there are times when the love is there but even you can get a little tired at times..


So to keep him (and you) interested...you really shouldnt have to try too hard... If the both of you relate on different levels.


You have to understand that in a sense you too are hitting it off pretty well but there are times that things just go down just so that they can rise back up...even with something as simple as being interested in one another.


I am currently in a serious long distant relationship and we hit it off just as you did (we related soooo well..it freaked me out !!)..but the point is..


even though we talked every night there came a point we sort of ran out of things to talk about...


but it wasnt so empty yet, the company of the other is wat mattered, i suppose.


so for your situation (im not saying it is exactly the same..but for the purpose that it is very similar) try to keep it simple for a bit..see if he comes up with stuff if you usually do...of if he usually comes up with stuff..you take charge a bit.


to excite it, ask him the craziest question you can...i mean, that is if you are that comfortable with him yet..but stuff like: fantasies, wierdest, dream, embarassing moments (and im talking the really messed up ones..if you and him are up for it :p), funny experiences, things he wonders about, what he wants to do before he dies...etc..


you a can also make up scenarios with him (with his input that is...) it can get his mind going as well as yours..and you too can try to stray away from reminiscing about the past if you already did so.. and start thinking about the future...in a FUN, CRAZY, INDIRECT way..nothing crazy-serious...


its good this way because it isnt really set in stone for either of you..you too are just enjoying the story all the while getting to know each others actions before you too reunite as well as the things that sort of go on in his head..


dont panic, sweetheart!!..its just a minor bump..and its an opportunity for you to take charge if you hadnt gotten the chance at some point or to nudge him to as well..you know??


but just remember that he is most likely after you and not how interesting you can be..so be casual and cool about it...basically, be yourself


Im almost positive that is all he really wants....esp. when he gets there :)


take care...best of luck ;)

1 comment:

StephaniePumphrey said...

He can easily and quickly lose their interest in you. So, make sure to always keep things new and exciting.

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